Tuesday, September 6, 2011

A More Appropriate Place

Greetings gentle readers,

Thank you for following me here to this new portion of the web I call my own. I have deep love and care for all those wrestling with gender issues, and for their loved ones who wrestle alongside them. However I found it more and more difficult to write with authenticity about my own life at Crossdresser Heaven. In particular because I can no longer identify with the title. In fact, since transitioning I haven't crossdressed once, or had any desire to. I now live my life in the gender I was always meant to.

As those who have chosen this path can attest, it is most difficult, joyous, challenging, exhilarating, liberating, traumatic, heart wrenching and beautiful. This is my path, the path I was born to walk eventually. I look forward to sharing each step along the way with you. My hope is that this website can become an important resource for others who are considering transition - to that end I'll be reposting some articles I wrote for Crossdresser Heaven that are particularly relevant to the those going further in their transition.

I went full time in November 2010. During the last 10 months I have experienced the world with the delight of a newborn. Thank you for joining me in my rebirth - I look forward to hearing from you.

21 comments:

  1. Much love you you, Vanessa! You have inspired me to become an advocate for those less understood. I have followed you for a couple years now, under various aliases (Jessica, Toni, BiGuy,etc), and I have wanted so much to hear more from you personally. I look forward to what you will bring to this new venue. I am also dying to see how you've blossomed!
    Your friend and supporter,
    Tony Adams
    tony.bornthisway@gmail.com

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  2. Thanks Tony! Your kind words warm my heart. It's a blessing that my first comment on my new website is so positive and affirming. *hugs*

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  3. I have followed you on Crossdresser Heaven for some time and was wondering when you would "transition" your site to acknowledge your transition. I admire you and always liked your site for its insights and integrity. Best wishes to you and your new venue.
    Jaime

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  4. Being on estrogen has made me the happiest that I have ever been. I have also made the journey from cross dresser to drag queen to transgender.

    Love,

    Michelle

    btw I think you meant "November 2010" not 2011

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  5. Thanks Jaime - yup, took me long enough, hey :)
    Michelle, wonderful to hear dear! It brings such a blessed peace, doesn't it? Thanks - changed to 2010. oops :)

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  6. Hi hunnie, i have followed your journey on crossdresser heaven to my heart has cried with you in your sad times & it has sung with you in your good times. Look forward to hear more from you here in your new home.( on this site) love& hugs Tammy. oxox

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  7. Hi,
    Love to here more from you.

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  8. Do you know what makes an average person smile & be happy? Being free to be themselves.
    I admit that I haven't been a member long, but is plainly obvious that you have helped so many girls/women learn about themselves & maybe be true to their own hearts, & that is truly inspirational!
    Stay amazing, stay true.

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  9. Vanessa, I love all the support that is offered here . I have been closet crossdresser but slosh coming out and loving it . I enjoy shopping ,dressing and just being feminine . My wife has told me I'm like one of the girls !!! Kevin

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  10. wonderful dear! Get out there are rock what you have!

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  11. Hey darling! I was struck by your remark that this is "...the path I was born to walk eventually." There was a deep feeling of destiny when I finally accepted myself as trans. I also longed to play guitar for many years before taking it up seriously, but it didn't give me that same feeling; guitar is a friend I found along the way, not something that was waiting all along for me to finally arrive, something that if I didn't get in this life I would have had to get in the next...
    I love you, sweetie - Chels

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  12. Hey Chelsea! I like your analogy of a friend you found along the way vs something that was waiting all along for you to arrive.

    Good to see you hear hon.

    Hugs!

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  13. Hey Vanessa , I'm going to Catherines to buy a few dresses ! I'm so excited and I'm trying these on while there . I'm excited about the thrill of being seen in drag , is this strange or what ??Kevin B

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  14. I was a long time follower of crossdresser heaven and im very young still and lonely so it was a huge help for me and this website is an inspiration for me in my many tough times. I dont know if I will find love one day that shares my veiws but transgender or not this should be an inspiration to all

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  15. Thanks hon, I'm blessed that I was able to provide some help and insight. I know how difficult the road is, but as the years go by I've found it easier to embrace who I am.

    I'll be honest that love is something that keeps me up at night - I worry about whether someone can love me, but I know that I need to give life time - right now I need to get through my surgeries before starting a new chapter. I have confidence that there's someone out there for me, and I have faith that you'll find someone equally wonderful and loving.

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  16. Vanessa,
    I can relate to your worries about finding love. My wife of 13 years is divorcing me because I revealed to her that I am bisexual and androgynous. All I can say is, I would not see you as anything but the woman you are. Gender should not matter when considering frienships...especially the best friend that holds your love. Don't lose hope, he or she is out there!
    Hugs!
    Tony

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  17. Hugsto all people on this site, and special hugs to Vanessa

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